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Once you have found your Perfect Asian Match, then what?

Online Asian dating sites such as Perfect Asian Match are the best places to meet the perfect Asian woman you have been looking for. In fact, unless you are based in Asia, it is the only realistic way.

So, let’s assume that you have joined the site, messaged a number of Asian beauties and started chatted with women from various countries. Women you are talking to may be from The Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, Taiwan or even China.  

You are getting on well with two or three women in particular. Sharing likes and dislikes. Getting to know each better with every message and exchange. Finding out as much about your Perfect Asian Match as you can before you both arrange to meet. Bear in mind, though, if you are in one country and your Asian lady is in another it’s not a small decision to arrange to meet.

Time off work, cost of flights and hotels and, of course, entertaining your Asia beauty to dinner and other activities you enjoy. But you both agree your relationship is growing and it’s worthwhile to meet. She might be in The Philippines or Thailand and you are from the US or one of the European countries. Two quite different cultures and viewpoints about things to do with relationships and life in general. You may need to try harder than you think to bridge this cultural gap and avoid any misunderstandings.

So, what are the best thing to do mitigate any potential pitfalls? Easy… do some quality research about Asian women, get knowledgeable and plan a step or two ahead.

Found a beautiful, “typical” Asian woman? Now, how best to make your relationship work?

Before you jet off to Asia, as a first step, perhaps you should take a moment to reflect on what exactly “typical” really means to you. Is there a readily accepted definition for typical as it applies to Asian women, or is it just another way of stereotyping the female(s) in question?

Perceptions help form opinions and it’s right to say that most foreign men perceive the typical, traditional Asian woman to be a combination of: shy, conservative in both general outlook and sexual matters, family centric, studious, hardworking, loyal and…, of course, obedient.

If you decide to journey to meet a typical Asian woman you met online, and really want to get to know her better, first and foremost, be patient. As the famous saying goes, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”

So, after you have arrived in Thailand, The Philippines or another Asian country and met for the first time, how to truly conquer this beautiful Asian woman’s affections?

Try some of these suggestions but, of course, feel free to add your own:

Perfect Asian Match – where Asian dating starts

Gain her confidence

When you finally get to have some quality conversation time with this Asian beauty, choose your words carefully. Repress your overriding desires to touch her, hold her hand, or to be suggestive about slipping between the sheets with her. She’s probably led a relatively sheltered life (really!). Your immediate outward signs of only wanting her for her physical appearance are, quite simply, going to lead you into trouble. Many Asian women come from conservative backgrounds where, even 25-30 years ago, dating a foreigner was looked down on;

Pay close attention to her interests and background

Show genuine interest in her interests, whether these be her family, her studies and, ideally, in her culture and heritage. Asian women are far more culture-centric than western women. This lady may be flattered in your genuine interest in her life and background. People from different cultures can work well together and be compatible. Yet, remember, that compatibility does not mean that all of your interests have to be 100% aligned;

Treat her as your equal

Encourage her to be confident, to be comfortable to speak up about matters that concern her—not to suppress her emotions or brood on issues which bother her. Given the, typically, patriarchal societies in most of Asia it’s possibly against her nature or upbringing to do this. However, let her know that you see your relationship (if indeed it is at that stage) as a partnership. It can be seen as a matching of equals, and not one where she is the inferior partner, only there to do the bidding of her man!